Have you ever been with someone who was toxic for you, but so much fun to be around? Or so you thought....
We've all been there - knowing that it wouldn't end good; however, we entertained their toxic behavior just because we were bored, sick of being lonely, or either just got out of a relationship and needed someone to take our minds off of our ex.
If you are with a toxic person and your only goal is to have fun and enjoy the moment, then cool - do you!! I can't tell you what not to do, but I would advise you to be careful, watch and control your feelings, and guard your heart at all costs.
Time spent and invested in a person can easily be mistaken for "being in love", but in reality, sometimes we are just in love with the idea of having that person around and filling that emptiness of being alone.
When we get deeply involved with a person that we shouldn't, and things come crashing down, we are left with a feeling of confusion, hurt, and resentment all because we did not know how to separate "having fun" from developing emotional ties from the toxic persons in our lives; OR, because we did not listen to that little voice in our head that said, "HEYYYYYYYYYYYY HE IS TOXIC AND HAS PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR THAT YOU DON'T LIKE! LEAVE HIM ALONE, GIRL!!!!!"
Sometimes, we just don't listen.
It happens all the time. You will meet someone, they are cute, funny, enjoy doing the same things you enjoy doing, but deep down, you KNOW something is not right, and something is missing. You may not know right off top, but it's pretty easy to tell when someone has bad energy and traits that you really don't care to have around you. It may not be that they are a negative person in general, they sometimes just aid in the bad habits we are trying to break, or come along with hella (slang for “a lot of”) baggage and drama!
I am personally guilty of entertaining people that I know won’t make it far along on my journey in life. Why I do this - I have no idea. I just like to have a good time I guess, or I’m just crazy (which isn’t unlikely). One of the hardest parts of dealing with a toxic relationship is fighting everyday to tell the person that there is no future in what we are doing, unless there are some major behavioral changes.
Most of the time, I don’t even bother addressing issues that need to be changed, unless a person realizes that I’m not 100% satisfied, and wants to adjust their ways to make whatever we have going on at the time last a bit longer. It’s crazy, but it’s the truth.
Sometimes women get so caught up in trying to change a person to where they forget that change must come from within. You can’t change a grown person that sees no wrong in their actions. It’s like trying to teach an old dog new tricks - IT AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN, SIS!!!
Stop wasting your time and just enjoy the moment, or let the person go. Simple, right?
Life is too short to be unhappy, so either shift the toxic persons out of your life, or deal with them with caution. The last thing you want to do is get hurt by someone you KNEW was no good for you, but part of being human is learning from our mistakes and growing from our situations.