Updated: Feb 28, 2019
Why are we wasting time stressing over people that aren’t contributing to our lives in a positive or resourceful matter? We may not realize it, but it happens all the time.
The truth of the matter is – if someone really wants to be with you, they will. They will put forth the effort needed to make you feel as though they are pursuing you with a genuine heart and good intentions. Don’t let someone tell you they are “too busy” for the attention you desire because that’s bullcrap. Sometime, the individuals you are dating, having sex with, or occasionally going to the movies and out to eat with don’t always have your best interest at heart. Sad, but true!
Some people are with you to only get what they can out of you, and when they are done sucking the life out of you, they will leave you high and dry with a dumb look on your face. We have all been there – looking dumbfounded over someone we thought was our “significant other”. If you haven’t been there, then good, but everyone I am close to, has been there on some level and on more than one occasion. It happens, and it’s okay.
Sometimes we are dumb for love instead of “drunk in love“ like Beyoncé told us to be.
We see the signs of neglect, cheating, deceit and sometimes even worse than that, but we look past it because of time invested in that person.
You just don’t know what you’re getting with people these days.
I mean, seriously… no matter how long you are with a person, you will never truly KNOW them. You will only know what they allow you to know, and let’s face it – no one is going to tell you their dirty little secrets, nor will they come to you and be clean or straight up about their characteristic flaws, bad traits, lack of morals, addictions, lack of faith, or bad attitude to say the least.
We all like to come across as having it all together, but I will be the first to admit that I don’t, and that’s okay. I want you to know that it’s okay for you too. When you are at peace with the thought that the current moment you are living isn’t the end of your story, you will become content with the fact that people come and go. Situations come and go. Life events come and go. Relationships come and go, and in my case, marriages come and go.
Some people are in your life forever due to different circumstances, different reasons, and on different levels, but what matters is being okay with who you are.
Once you find yourself and start loving yourself on the level in which you want someone else to love you, it will then become easier to stop worrying about what’s going to happen with your situation. At the end of the day, YOU are in control of your feelings. You are in charge of who you give your heart to, so stop giving it away freely.
Take the time to map out what you want when it comes to relationships and govern yourself accordingly. Once you do this, you can stop stressing over that person and enjoy the moment or end it. Easier said than done right?!